Alright. So I know that I am a pretty polite person, and that I am also a little bit non confrontational. Perhaps its the "semi middle child" in me that likes to see the peace, likes things to get smoothed over, and doesn't like to be caught in the middle of things. I am also a little bit (possibly bordering on a lotta bit) passive agressive. I guess I'd rather seethe internally and be mad than have someone mad at me. I do try not to let people walk over me, and from this, I often find myself taking the lead on projects to avoid these displeasures in my life.
I got an email today in which the send chose to "email yell" at me aka write in all caps. It was unnecessary and rude, especially when it would've been just as easy to say, "I think there might've been a mix-up..." and because I am young and newer and the reasons listed above, I took the blame and apologized. I then checked the original email, and based on the info I had been given, I was right.
Why did I feel it was necessary to just roll over for the sender? I am just trying to do my job and you yours and there is no need for anyone to be "yelling" or getting angry. Maybe because there is nothing serious at stake it was easier to just gloss over it, but maybe because there is nothing serious at stake they shouldn't freak out. But then, what do I know? Maybe something serious was a stake for them.
Boo. And I was having such a good day.
sorry to hear that. Save the email, print it out along with your "evidence" that you were right. Keep it in case there is more "yelling". If it happens 3 times you need to take your documentation to the superior person and act on it. xo
ReplyDeleteI second Plantress. Also you were clearly raised with good manners while others might not have been. While it's good not to escalate and yell back you can always apologize but also remind them that their reaction was not an appropriate way to communicate with you and it may be more productive for them to try a different approach in the future (I'm a firm believer in politely reinforcing your boundaries and teaching people how to treat you, especially in the work force!)
ReplyDeleteIsn't it hard being the newest/youngest/lowest on the totem pole person at a new job? Hang in there!